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Jul 28, 2023Liked by Monica Danielle

A brief view from the other side: my position was eliminated less than a year after I made a mid-pandemic cross-country move with my family (including toddler) for the job in question. It was a godsend. I have my own business now, and while it is often anxiety-inducing, and while as the sole wage earner in my family it can occasionally lead to sleepless nights, it has also given me more than I ever could have imagined. It has allowed me to unlearn so many of behaviors and beliefs that kept me small and nonthreatening as a Woman in Late-Stage Capitalism. It brought me closer to who I am and who I want to be. It has given me time with my young daughter, and midday walks, and the ability to show up for so many people that matter to me in my life. It helped me remember what life is.

We should all be able to have this without the attached anxiety, without the fear of poverty and illness, without the fucking hustle. But for the moment? It has been one of life's great surprises to discover that life on the fringes of the system has so much sweetness to offer.

(But also, man, a steady paycheck and employer-provided health insurance are fucking awesome and sometimes I want to run back into the bosom of Cold Corporate Overlord. That's real too.)

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Jul 28, 2023Liked by Monica Danielle

Hi! I'm self employed/ 1099 and pay for my family's healthcare. What you're doing to take care of your family totally supersedes capitalism and is to be admired. We do what we have to do, not just for our survival, but for the survival of our closest loved ones. Many, MANY, people refuse to "sell out" and get actual money paying jobs and benefits, and then become everybody else's burden.......

(I just payed about $7K off of a medical debt for my SD who is in college that went into collections when someone else was supposed to make sure she was insured and was going to pay that debt that was ruining our kid's credit so I'm not bitter or pissed.... I digress)

Americans are tricked into believing that we're entitled to our most perfect happiness and to do anything, or not do anything, to achieve that first and foremost. Not only does this hurt everyone else, it hurts them the most because we're never going to be 100% in our most perfect happiness bc that's not how this life works.

You, YOU, are providing for your kids singlehandedly, and that? That's fucking badass.

And? It brings content which leads to joy found in unexpected places.

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I worry about getting laid off all the time, I have only been in my current corporate role for a few years so I wouldn’t get much of a payout if they did let me go. Over the past few months I’ve been building up a few side hustles to the point that they now contribute around 35% of my income. It wouldn’t cover my expenses if I was made redundant but it would certainly help

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Same, like you I have seen it in my workplace and it is brutal. I work as a copywriter and content strategist and do a lot of freelance on the side. I have three clients who give me fairly regular work and I’ve just started pet sitting which is lower paid but easy and nice, plus it all adds up!

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Congratulations and condolences at the same time... two people close to me: one fired and one 'laid off' last week. I wonder nearly every day if I'm going to get ~the boot~. Life is fucking hard, it's time we all got a respite from all this bullshit.

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